Connecting instead of
self protecting

A workshop for people who feel like so many of their relationships are exhausting or unfulfilling and want to find a better way.

This program is about confronting the ways self-protective habits can sabotage relationships and what we can do to show up authentically and invite others to do the same.

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About This Workshop

Thanks for checking out this program. This class was created after I was flooded with questions about how to create authentic connection after this video went viral here and here.

During this workshop, I talk about how the things that made us special or kept us safe as a child can become the barriers to authentic relationship as an adult.

Whether you were the helper, the people pleaser, the stoic, protector, practical joker, smart one, scapegoat, favorite or something else, the roles that earned you praise or protected you can become the thing you hide behind as an adult.

And it’s exhausting. Not only because it takes energy to keep up appearances. But because so often, we’re doing it everywhere we go.

For those becoming aware of their self-protective mechanisms in relationship, it can be shocking to realize… I’m doing this so much so that I don’t even know who I am anymore.

This is where we’ll begin.

In class I talk about how to use mindfulness and embodiment practices to get behind our walls and start relating more authentically. And along the way we’ll acknowledge some important truths: Not everyone is safe or deserving of our energy.

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(Lifetime access)

Kind Words From Those Who Have Worked With Nick

  • "I have struggled with self love due to the experience of feeling like I never truly belonged in my family of origin. This program have made a huge difference in how I was able to shift and heal the ways I relate to myself. I felt myself truly transformed by the end."

    Jonathan K.

  • "So much has already happened, I feel like a different person and a much more confident and understanding one."

    Saffron H.

  • "I learned how to grow and heal in a very accepting, inclusive way towards myself that I have already started to use in my daily life. I 110% recommend this work.

    Becky S.

  • "The ideas and exercises in this program helped me to heal from a lifetime of feeling shame, feeling like an outsider, and feeling disconnected from others and myself. I wish everyone could learn the information in this program, as it applies to every person."

    Heidi W.

  • "Nick did such a great job of creating a safe supportive environment of understanding for a vulnerable population of people. I felt he provided, in words and energy, the witnessing and respect many of us had not received about our stories."

    Sarah R.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • This workshop is ideal for anyone who feels that they are in one-sided relationships or relationships that exhaust them and they feel like it’s a pattern.

  • Anyone in crisis or seeking 1:1 consultation. Because this is a larger group format, there won’t be space to address individual challenges with the depth needed for crisis support.

About Nick Werber

Nick is an integrative coach, educator and writer working in the realms of embodiment and the intersection between identity and belonging. He is a board member of The Focalizing Institute 501(c)(3) and received the bulk of his initial training over a decade of mentorship from the institute’s founder and renown somatic psychologist, Dr. Michael Picucci.

To date, Nick has taught hundreds of therapists, coaches and helping professionals across 12+ countries on how to develop inner resiliency and transform the narratives that are at the root of what keeps people stuck.

An avid teacher, his work has been viewed across social media over 35 million times.

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