Inner Child Work for Black Sheep

Feel at home in yourself, even if you never felt at home in your family.

The shame and blame landed on you because the family needed someone to carry it. Here is how you put it down.

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  • October 227 classes on Thursdays
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This is what it feels like

In your own head

  • You’re always holding the belief that something is wrong with you, even when you know intellectually that it wasn’t your fault.
  • You second guess yourself constantly: Small interactions leave you wondering if you overreacted or made things worse.
  • You’re always explaining, defending, and justifying yourself, even in situations where nobody asked.
  • Maybe you’ve made tremendous progress and still something in you is always prepared that you’ll be ‘found out’ or told you are too much.

Around other people

  • You walk into new situations and immediately brace for the moment someone will figure out that there’s something different or wrong about you.
  • You push people away or keep them at a distance because letting people in feels exhausting or too vulnerable.

With your family

  • You were the one who was “too much” in your family, and that’s become internalized. You still worry that you’re too sensitive, too emotional, or that you ask too many questions.
  • You’ve spent years trying to make sense of what happened in your family. You’ve put real effort into understanding yourself and something still feels stuck.
  • You’ve tried to set boundaries, possibly gone no contact, and you’re still trying to figure out who you are when you’re not the family problem.
  • Or maybe you’re still in contact, still navigating the guilt trips, the disappointed messages, the calls where you somehow end up apologizing for things that were never your fault.

What starts to change

Where you are nowWhere this goes
Something must be wrong with you

You’re always holding the belief that something is wrong with you, even when you know intellectually that it wasn’t your fault.

The inner critic softens.It’s no longer automatic to assume something is wrong with you.
You never feel comfortable in groups

You walk into new situations and immediately brace for the moment someone will figure out that there’s something different or wrong about you.

You stop bracing all the time.That constant feeling that you’ll be singled out isn’t so loud anymore, and you walk into rooms without expecting to be the problem.
Second-guessing everything

You second guess yourself constantly: Small interactions leave you wondering if you overreacted or made things worse.

You trust your own reactions more.You’re not constantly wondering if you overreacted or made things worse.
Over-explaining yourself to everyone

You’re always explaining, defending, and justifying yourself, even in situations where nobody asked.

You allow yourself to be misunderstood.Because you know that no amount of words will win someone over when they’re committed to misunderstanding you.
Always feeling like you’re too much

You were the one who was “too much” in your family, and that’s become internalized. You still worry that you’re too sensitive, too emotional, or that you ask too many questions.

You stop measuring your worth based on other people’s reactions.Because when you have a more accepting relationship to these parts of you, other people have less power over you.
Keeping people at a distance

You push people away or keep them at a distance because letting people in feels exhausting or too vulnerable.

You know the types of relationships you’re looking for.And they’re the kind that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself on behalf of the other person. And anyone who offers less than that doesn’t get to define you.
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Words from past students

A past student, from Facebook: I’m doing the class with Nick right now and it’s really good work. He’s a talented and knowledgable teacher. A reply from another past student: Me too. Love the parts and somatic work Nick does with us.A past student, on TikTok: I went through the program. Nick is great! The program is really helpful.A past student, on Instagram: This was a great course!!A past student, from Facebook: I’ve taken Nick’s Inner Child/Black Sheep workshop. This is the guide you’ll want to delve into early childhood wounds and reclaim the gifts and vitality that hid underground for decades.A past student, on Instagram: Ty Nick. As someone who’s paid for a workshop with you and watches these free mental health unlocking videos that you post, I am utterly grateful I found your voice to listen to.A past student, from Facebook: I was in your very first cohort on Black Sheep. You helped me so much somatically.
Nick Werber

A note from Nick

This program purposely is held through the holiday season starting on October 22nd and ending December 10th.

If you’re someone who really struggles around Thanksgiving and Christmas, or whichever holidays you celebrate, this is here to support you.

Alongside the core material, this will be an expanded version sharing material on grief during the holiday season, boundaries, estrangement and guidance for those who will be spending time with family.

And along the way we’ll be using inner child work because it’s such a powerful way to work with the parts of you that get triggered, especially this time of year.

Nick Werber

The Root

Why it still feels like you’re the problem

The inner critic that tells you you’re the problem didn’t come from nowhere: It’s a manifestation of shame that was handed to you by a family system that needed someone else to carry it.

At the root of it is a child who learned, very early, that being themselves was dangerous. That their feelings were too much and that their presence was a problem to be managed.

Inner child work is the practice of going back to that childlike part of yourself, with everything you know now, and giving them what the family couldn’t. It’s a practice that helps you change your relationship to yourself in a truly meaningful way.

What we cover together

Each Thursday session runs 90 minutes and is followed by take-home practices to integrate between sessions. Recordings are available to watch approximately 3 hours after class ends for those who can’t attend live. (They remain there forever)

October 22

Why You Always Feel Like the Problem

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The family system that created this feeling is more specific than you think. In this session you’ll understand exactly how and why the blame landed on you. It had far more to do with the system you were born into than anything you did or didn’t do. The inner child practices start in this first session.
October 29

Finally Understanding What You’ve Been Carrying

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There’s a specific kind of weight that black sheep carry. This session names it clearly: the shame, the guilt, constantly being on guard. What has been running in the background finally has a shape and once you see it you can’t unsee it.
November 5

Giving Yourself What the Family Couldn’t

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This is where the inner child work begins in earnest. You’ll learn what attunement, validation, and safety actually feel like, and start building a relationship with the younger part of you that never got enough of any of them. This thread continues through every session that follows.
November 12

Why Self-Compassion Feels So Hard

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This is the messy middle. Most black sheep find self-compassion not just difficult but actively uncomfortable. It can even feel dangerous. This session names why, works with the inner critic directly to loosen its grip on how you see yourself.
November 19

Letting Go of the Labels Others Gave You

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The black sheep, difficult or sensitive one. These labels were given to you by a system that needed someone to fill a role. This session is about what shedding these labels means and who you actually are outside the family story.
November 26

Break week

No class this week. We pick up again on December 3.

December 3

How Transformation Changes Who You Let In

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The patterns from your family don’t stay in your family. They show up in friendships, romantic relationships, workplaces. This session looks at how the work you’ve done shifts who you attract, who you trust, and how you show up when the old dynamic tries to repeat itself. This includes navigating ongoing contact with family members who still treat you as the problem, and learning how to hold yourself steady when the old dynamic tries to pull you back in.
December 10

Inner Belonging and a Roadmap for the Future

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The final session is about consolidating everything and building something to take with you. You’ll leave with a clear personal roadmap for continuing this work on your own. You will also leave with a felt sense of what inner belonging actually means when it lives inside you rather than depending on someone else’s approval.
Nick Werber kneeling among ferns in a forest

Nick Werber

Born to Disrupt

Nick Werber is the author and narrator of the Audible Original Born to Disrupt.

Nick Werber has spent the past decade working with family outsiders, scapegoats, and black sheep. People who were told they were the problem and have been trying to unlearn that story ever since.

His work focuses on the patterns that remain long after the family dynamic ends. The self doubt, the inner critic and the way the nervous system learns to brace, second guess, and expect danger at all times.

Nick is a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner and serves as director and lead trainer of The Focalizing Institute.

To date, his writing and teaching has reached over 50 million people.

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Inner Child Work for Black Sheep

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  • 7 live weekly sessions, Thursdays 1:00pm to 2:30pm Eastern
  • Recordings available within 3 hours of each session
  • Take-home practices between each session
  • Additional Q&A space inside course platform
  • Attend live or watch replays entirely at your own pace
  • Lifetime access to all recordings and materials
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Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this program for?

This program is for anyone who grew up feeling like the outsider in their family, whether you identify as the black sheep, the scapegoat, the lost child, or simply the one who never quite fit in. It’s especially for people who have done work on themselves and still feel like the inner critic and the “what did I do wrong” loop is running the show. This program is equally for those whose family dynamic is ongoing. People who are still receiving guilt-laden messages, managing difficult contact, or navigating the complicated grief of a relationship that never became what they needed.

Is this program right for me right now?

This program is designed for people who are stable enough to do reflective work and are ready to explore their family experience in a supportive group setting. It is not designed for people currently in acute mental health crisis or who need immediate clinical support. If you are currently working with a therapist on acute trauma, this program can complement that work, but please check in with your therapist before enrolling. If you are unsure whether this is the right fit for where you are right now, reach out before enrolling and Nick will help you assess.

Do I have to attend live?

No. Every session is recorded and available within 3 hours of the live class. You can do this program entirely at your own pace if that works better for your schedule. The live sessions add a shared energy that many people find powerful, but the material works fully in self-paced format too.

What if I’ve already done inner child work?

This program will give it a new frame, specifically through the lens of the family black sheep experience. If you’ve done inner child work in a general context, working with it through this specific lens tends to unlock things that more general approaches don’t reach.

What is the refund policy?

There is a 7-day money back guarantee from the start of the program. The program begins October 22nd, so the guarantee window closes October 29th. If you enroll and feel it isn’t right for you, reach out before October 29th for a full refund, no questions asked.

Where does the program live?

The program is hosted on Thinkific. Once you enroll you’ll receive a confirmation email. Access to the platform and course area will be shared with you ahead of the October 22nd start date. Materials will be released as the program unfolds each week. There is no class on November 26; we pick up again on December 3.

Do I have to speak or share in the group?

No. You never have to speak or share with the group. Taking part quietly is completely welcome.

Can I keep my camera off?

Yes. You can keep your camera off for every session.

What gets recorded?

Recordings are always kept private to the group. In the first session you will be shown how to stay anonymous in the recording if you want to.

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Coaching, Not Therapy

This program is educational and coaching-based. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for clinical mental health care.

If you are looking for clinical support, Nick is happy to help connect you with trauma-informed therapists.

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