About Nick
Nick Werber is the author and narrator of the Audible Original Born to Disrupt.
Featured On:
Nick’s writing and teaching explore what it takes to trust yourself after growing up in a family that repeatedly questioned your feelings, needs, or experience. He focuses on the experiences of black sheep, scapegoats, and family outsiders, and the self-doubt, shame, and overthinking that can follow them long after childhood.
Across his work, Nick asks a central question: How do you build a life that feels like your own when you learned to put other people’s expectations ahead of your own needs?
His perspective is shaped by years of helping people notice how those expectations show up in their bodies, relationships, and everyday choices.
Nick is a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner and serves as director and lead trainer of The Focalizing Institute. He studied for nearly a decade under Dr. Michael Picucci, the originator of Focalizing, and has since trained hundreds of therapists, coaches, and helping professionals across more than 15 countries in the modality.
His courses and workshops bring this understanding into the situations people struggle with every day: an inner critic that echoes familiar judgments, guilt that follows setting a boundary, and the grief of distance or estrangement. His approach offers practical ways to work with these experiences while building trust in your own feelings, needs, and choices.
Nick’s writing and videos have received more than 50 million views online. His work has been featured by the Omega Institute, The Embodiment Conference, and the MyWellbeing Therapy Network.
Through Born to Disrupt, his courses, and his practitioner trainings, he invites people to question the stories they inherited about themselves and explore who they are beyond them.
Upcoming programs
Nick is currently not offering 1:1 coaching.
Selected Certifications and Trainings
-
Director & Lead Trainer, The Focalizing Institute 501(c)(3)
Nick trained extensively under Dr. Michael Picucci, founder of The Focalizing Institute, and now serves as a Director of the organization and Lead Trainer of its professional practitioner training program.
In this role, he helps train and mentor new practitioners in the Focalizing approach, an experiential method that integrates mindfulness, embodied awareness, and emotional insight. His leadership within the Institute reflects years of advanced study, teaching, and direct experience supporting others in the application of this work.
-
Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, SEP
Nick is a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, having completed the three-year professional training program developed by Dr. Peter Levine. Somatic Experiencing is a body-oriented approach that explores the relationship between physiology, stress, resilience, and human experience.
This training informs Nick’s work as a coach, teacher, and writer, particularly his understanding of embodiment, emotional regulation, pacing, and the ways people learn to reconnect with themselves after years of adapting to difficult environments. He draws upon these principles in a non-clinical, educational context focused on self-awareness, personal growth, and living with greater authenticity and choice.
-
IAC-Masteries Practitioner™International Association of Coaching®
Nick is an IAC-Masteries Practitioner™, trained in a practical coaching approach that helps clients use conscious self-inquiry to support meaningful changes in their lives. This work helps people clarify what they want, identify what may be getting in the way, establish purposeful intentions, and develop the supports needed to sustain progress beyond the coaching session.
-
Inherited Family Trauma TrainingTrained by Mark Wolynn
Nick has completed advanced training in inherited family trauma through the work of Mark Wolynn, author of It Didn’t Start With You. This perspective explores how family dynamics, attachment patterns, survival strategies, and inherited beliefs can shape a person’s sense of self and relationships across generations. The training integrates themes from family systems thinking, attachment theory, trauma research, and intergenerational patterning.
This work strongly informs Nick’s writing and teaching around black sheep roles, outsider identity, inherited shame, and the adaptive patterns people often develop within difficult family environments.
-
Certified Family Constellation FacilitatorTrained by Suzi Tucker of the Bert Hellinger Institute, US
Nick has trained in Family & Systemic Constellations through the work of Suzi Tucker and the Bert Hellinger Institute USA.
Family Constellations is an experiential group process that explores how family dynamics, loyalty patterns, and intergenerational influences can shape present-day relationships and identity. This perspective informs Nick’s work with family outsider roles, belonging, shame, and relational dynamics.
Nick incorporates constellation-informed perspectives, reflective exercises, and genogram-based exploration into his coaching and educational work as tools for insight and self-understanding.
-
Member, International Association of Coaching (IAC)
Nick adheres to the IAC Code of Ethics, an independent professional standard governing conduct, confidentiality, and client welfare. More information at certifiedcoach.org.
Nick's Guiding Principles
These are the principles that guide all of Nick's work:
- Absolute Non-JudgmentBefore labels, expectations and cultural conditioning, what is simply is. To witness without judgment creates space around internal barriers and opens up new possibilities. The state of non-judgment alluded to here can move mountains.
- Work from ResourceAny mending process often includes a sense that you are finding your footing on new ground. To take that step and connect with the person you want to be requires a strong sense that it is safe to do so. To support this, Nick always cultivates the resources required to feel safe in your environment and in your body. The result is that what previously felt like a giant leap ends up being a smaller, more manageable step.
- We Walk TogetherNick works with you as an equal. Every person brings with them a body of experience and knowledge that can support transformation. To walk together is to honor and include the gifts that you offer to this process.
- Overwhelm is the EnemyNick works with gentleness and compassion. Overwhelming your mind or body in an attempt to 'conquer' or 'bust through' an internal barrier rarely leads to a lasting resolution. For this reason, gentleness is vital to the process.
Coaching, Not Therapy
Nick's work, including his coaching, workshops, courses, and content, is educational and coaching-based in nature. He does not diagnose, treat, or provide clinical mental health services, and his work is not a substitute for therapy or psychiatric care.
His approach draws on training in Focalizing, Somatic Experiencing, parts work, and intergenerational trauma, and is designed to complement, not replace, the work of licensed mental health professionals.
For those who need clinical support, Nick maintains a referral network of trauma-informed therapists and is glad to connect you.
Location
Nick works with clients across the globe via Zoom.
Nick also teaches Focalizing and leads group workshops and retreats internationally.
Sliding Scale / Scholarships
Nick offers assistance to individual clients and students in his courses that identify as black, indigenous or LGBTQIA+. If you identify as part of one of these groups, please reach out and mention that you’re interested in the sliding scale or the course scholarships.
Contact