Family Constellations seeks to unearth the core aspects of your upbringing, your family, and even your family’s history that are contributing to the specific challenges you’re experiencing today. Once uncovered, the work aims to provide you with meaningful and lasting tools to heal that can have far reaching effects outside of the workshop.Read More
The greatest gift a healer can give to someone is the space they hold. The space is where the exchange happens; where healing occurs…Read More
On the deepest level, you cannot choose whether or not you love your parents.
When you consciously reject a parent or a part of your parent out of resentment, your unconscious reacts by making up the difference…Read More
So funny, I bumped into this quote right after I put up my last post about wholeness. It may sound counterintuitive, but when we bring opposing feelings, emotions or energies together, it can create dramatic healing.Read More
To be honest, until recently I didn't think of healing as a journey back to wholeness. Lately that's been changing.Read More
I’m excited to share a new podcast that I recorded with the talented and brilliant Candice Wu. Candice and I met at a Family Constellations intensive / conference a little over a year ago and quickly connected around our shared background of both Family Constellations and somatic healing approaches.Read More
Here's a quote I love because it reminds me to be wary of the trap of wanting people to change.Read More
I recently read an article where people were successfully being treated for chronic depression by going on regular hikes in the woods.
I’ve experienced this countless times: nature heals.Read More
So much of Family Constellation healing work revolves around the simple understanding that every member of a family inherently belongs. And the moment this is violated like when a family member is ostracized or otherwise shunned, it creates a rift in the family. What’s surprising is that this rift actually continues to affect future generations in a variety of ways.Read More
There is a relationship between being cut off from family, ancestry, and community and our experiences of anxiety, depression, anger, violence and virtually all forms of personal and interpersonal problems.Read More
I'm absolutely blown away by the workshop I just got back from. Today I'm simply integrating three days of Family Constellations lead by veteran facilitator Stephan Hausner.Read More
Tonight I'm headed up to Tarrytown for Stephan Hausner's Family Constellations weekend workshop. Stephan's focus is how Family Constellations can provide healing resource for people with chronic illnesses of unknown origin.Read More
Aside from my personal work I just feel so affirmed that Family Constellations is so deep and so versatile. There is no end to the journey of mastering this work. And it’s such a treat to watch facilitators from all over the world bringing their own style and vision to it.Read More
One of the most difficult energies to transmute in a healing process is when self righteousness appears in an individual, family, culture or nation. Many of us are fully aware of forms of self righteous perpetration. One way this looks is when people do something evil thinking it’s the right thing to do because the nation, god or authority says so. But there’s another similarly detrimental form of self righteousness which is self righteous victimhood.Read More
We need both knowing and not knowing in order to be effective in what we do. If we hold that we know exactly what we’re doing at all times, we stop being open to seeing anomalies in our experience - which are part of the whole of every process. And if we do recognize something outside of our knowledge, we’re likely to act as if we understand it to maintain our ego. If this happens, we risk being heavy handed and screwing things up just to keep our act going.Read More
I’m about halfway through day two of this Family Constellations training and retreat. Pictured is the labyrinth at the retreat center.
A repeating message that I’ve been hearing during this training is the power of ‘doing by not doing.’Read More
I'm excited to share that I'm returning to Maha Rose to lead a healing workshop devoted to the relationships we have with work and money. We'll examine the often overlooked ways our family and upbringing deeply shapes how we work, whether we save money or not, the types of jobs we are attracted to, and how we interact with our bosses or our clients/customers. From there, we'll move from insight to action and begin to connect to practical ways of shifting these patterns so that we are freer to connect with our intentions at work and outside of work.Read More
Healing the past isn't about erasing what happened, it's about integrating it. When we heal from the past, what happened doesn't change. But how we hold it, or how it holds us, can change completely. This is a core intention of Family Constellations.Read More
Here's a stand out quote from Mr. Rogers that my partner shared with me. Not only is it a beautiful quote about love, but it directly speaks to an intention of the Family Constellations healing work I do.
Dependence does not equal love. In fact, dependence can actually get in the way of love.Read More