A Symptom of Shame: Constant Self Improvement

This quote was shared with me yesterday: "a symptom of shame is to always think of yourself as a work in progress and that you've never fully arrived."

I feel this really hits home. And so this post is dedicated to sharing some of what I've observed about how shame operates:

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Grief in The Face of Death

A really special quote from Bert. In Family Constellations, when the reality of death is acknowledged directly it can often soothe the family system rather than activate it.

Here’s one example of what I mean.

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I'm super excited to share that Maha Rose (@maharosenyc) has selected me as their featured practitioner for the month of February!

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New Workshop: Love's Hidden Symmetry

Family Constellations seeks to unearth the core aspects of your upbringing, your family, and even your family’s history that are contributing to the specific challenges you’re experiencing today. Once uncovered, the work aims to provide you with meaningful and lasting tools to heal that can have far reaching effects outside of the workshop.

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The greatest gift a healer can give to someone is the space they hold. The space is where the exchange happens; where healing occurs…

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So funny, I bumped into this quote right after I put up my last post about wholeness. It may sound counterintuitive, but when we bring opposing feelings, emotions or energies together, it can create dramatic healing.

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A Core Concept of Meaningful Healing: "What You Resist, Persists."

So much of Family Constellation healing work revolves around the simple understanding that every member of a family inherently belongs. And the moment this is violated like when a family member is ostracized or otherwise shunned, it creates a rift in the family. What’s surprising is that this rift actually continues to affect future generations in a variety of ways.

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“The only thing worse than a guilty perpetrator is a self righteous victim.” - Dan Cohen

One of the most difficult energies to transmute in a healing process is when self righteousness appears in an individual, family, culture or nation. Many of us are fully aware of forms of self righteous perpetration. One way this looks is when people do something evil thinking it’s the right thing to do because the nation, god or authority says so. But there’s another similarly detrimental form of self righteousness which is self righteous victimhood.

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